Tryambakayajvan; Julia Leslie (tr.);
The perfect wife [strIdharmapaddhati :Sanskrit]
OUP 1989 / Penguin 1995
ISBN 0140435980
topics: | gender | india | history
The perfect wife: the orthodox Hindu women according to strIdharmapaddhati of Tryambakayajvan.
Since childhood I have known about the innumerable restrictions on women, they must be patibratA (husband-obeying), not look at parapuruSha (other men), that sons are far more desirable, etc. but had not even heard of this late medieval text, composed by a Maratha-affiliated scholar from Tanjavur, in which he sets out many of these terms and cooncepts that govern women's lives across much of the Hindu world even today. Tryambakayajvan, was a minister to the Maratha kings of Thanjavur, sAhajI and serfojI (this is the historical character TryambakarAyamakhin [AD 1665-1750], almost certainly the same as the author of this text), Contemporaries describe him as a learned minister, performer of Vedic sacrifices, and a patron of scholars. Julia Leslie was a professor of Hindu Studies at the School of Oriental and African Studies at the University of London.
[lit. guide to wifely dharma, or conduct] strIdharmapaddhati is a recension summarizing and systematizing a tradition of conformity that was by then already over a thousand years old; the text contains references and synthesizes ideas from ancient texts, starting with the Apastamba sutras (c. 400BCE) and Manu and more recent tracts. [AM: apastamba is the second of the Sulba sutras, c.500BC... I had thought that these were more about some of the mathematical aspects of constructing ritual altars etc. Obviously it's also about regular ritual. ] For Tryambaka, women are not individuals but parts that fit into and strengthen the whole, i.e. dharma. Lays out the detailed duties of women, primarily the service of her husband and his household. Charts all the rituals that must be followed throughout the day, and special processes dealing with menstruation, pregnancy, dying with the husband (sahagamanavidhiH), widowhood, etc.
verses 1v.1-2v.5 p. 27 Verse 1: mukhyo dharmaH smr^tiShu vihito bhartr^shushruShANam hi_ | the primary duty of women is enjoined to be service to one's husband. shushruShA (lit. desire to hear) - covers a range of meanings from the devotee's homage to god, to the obsequieous service of a slave. All these types of service are incorporated in shushruShA. Verse 2: Like sati, the paragon of chaste womanhood, who desired to gain a husband's blessing (first) bedause she wanted to help the world (second) because it was prescribed by sacred tradition, and (third) because it was her father's command, grant me today the knowledge of the sacred way. [Sati, daughter of Daksha, is pArvatI in a previous birth. When the world is threatened by the demon tAraka, it is prophesied that only the son of Shiva and pArvatI could destroy him. So Sati sets out to win Shiva, first by her beauty, and then by her religious devotion. Eventually, Skanda is born to them and the universe is saved (SivapuraNa, pArvatIkhaNDa; Skandapurana, kAshikhaNDa; RAmAyaNa I; kumArasambhava).]
BEFORE DAWN 2v.5-7v.9 p.51: from waking up before her husband tp for worship and meditation (devatAdhyAnam), and then to prepare the grain (dhAnyasaMskArAdi), clean the house (gr^hasaMmArjanAdikam), smear it with cow-dung (gomayenAnulepanam), worship the threshold (dehalIpUja), and care of cows (gosevanam), to processes for urination and defecation (mUtrapurIShotsargaH), rituals for cleansing and sipping (Acamanam), cleaning the teeth (dantadhAvanam), bath, dressing and the tilaka mark. AT DAWN (7v.9-10v.1) p.102: Serving at the fire sacrifice, offering of respect to the sun DAY (10v.1-19v.4) p.156: Saluting one's elders, managing house, including accounts, dealing with other men (parapuruSha); however, she may talk to traders, renouncers (pravrajita), doctors, and old men. (p.171). In addition, elsewhere it is noted that the good wife should associate with certain other women: courtesans (gaNika), women who gamble (dhUrtA), women who meet lovers in secret (abhisAriNI), etc. Further rituals for the day include several worships, looking after guests, and especially the meal (bhojanam); how the wife should serve the husband (pariveShaNam), and then, only after she has massaged his feet (bhartuH pAdavandanaM kr^tva bhoktavyam), eat her own food, starting with what is left over (ucchiShTam) in her husband's plate. EVENING (19v.4-21r.3) p.234: evening rituals, going to bed, lovemaking. Normally, the husband may beat the wife for some wrongdoing, but never the woman. However, in lovemaking, these prohibitions are swept aside, and their are detailed classifications of the types of scratching, biting and striking one may do - lovemaking is a erotic fight (pranayakalaha). p.243 Also it appears that the woman must not sleep naked, so perhaps after lovemaking, when she is enjoined to remove her bodice, she must dress again. Oral sex is not ordained - indeed, it is a misfit of the kali yuga that women may commit intercourse with the mouth (mukhebhagAH) INHERENT NATURE OF WOMEN (trIsvabhAvaH, 21r.3-22r.8) p.246: A woman (and the sudra) is so born because of past sins. Being sinful, she is amantravat; being amantravat, she cannot purify herself of sin; she therefore remains sinful all her life. p. 246. At the same time, women are pure (medhyA), and menstruation (quoting Manu) is the mark of an all-encompassing purity unique to women." 254 [But later, menstruation will become dirty) Unlike men, who have to go to great lengths to achieve heaven, women may do so merely by patishushrUShaNam. DUTIES COMMON TO ALL WOMEN 22r.8-48v.6, p. 273 During menstruation: full of impurity (rajasvalA), stained clothes (malavadvAsas), etc, the woman is impure for three days - her levels of pollution are : first day - like an untouchable, second dAY - a brahmin-killer, and on the third, a washerwoman. During this period, she should not use kAjal, or comb her hair, or massage her body w oil, etc. Disobeying results in defects in the child. On the fourth day she must ritually purify herself. 286 When a woman is pregnant her cravings must be attended to. 289. When she enters the birth-chamber, she must hold a fruit with a male name, to encourage the birth of a male child. 291 Dying with the husband - _bhartranumaraNam - brings great rewards, and is strongly recommended. However, if by some fate, she is not able to, then she has to practice great mortification - one meal a day, no high bed, no bodice (kaNcukam), no tying of hair on top, and definitely no contact with other men. 299 Tryambaka's CONCLUSION: reinforces the point that obedient service to the husband is the woman's most pressing duty. Appendix (by Leslie) : various versions of the manuscripts and arguments for the choice of the primary sources, etc. For a look at modern versions of these strictures in the lives of Indian women today, see Pearson, Anne Mackenzie; Because it Gives Me Peace of Mind: Ritual Fasts in the Religious Lives of Hindu Women SUNY Press, 1996, 315 pages, ISBN 0791430375
1. INTRODUCTION 1 Mode of Presentation and Overview of Contents of Stridharmapaddhati 4 The Author of the Stridharmapaddhati 10 The Political Background: the Maratha Rajas of Thanjavur 13 The Intellectual Milieu 16 The Women of the Period 19 The Literary Genre: the Stridharmapaddhati in the Context of the Religious Law (dharmashAstra) 23 2. THE STRIDHARMAPADDHATI OF TRYAMBAKAYAJVAN 27 I TRYAMBAKA'S INTRODUCTION (Sdhp. lv.1 - 2v.5) 29 II THE DAILY DUTIES OF WOMEN (_strINAm AhNikam); Sdhp. 2v. 5 - 21r.3) 44 IIA BEFORE DAWN (Sdhp. 2v.5 - 7v.9) 51 On Waking Up (prabodhanam) 51 Before dawn 51 Before one's husband 52 Meditation (devatadhyanam) 52 What may or may not be seen (darsaniyanyadarsaniyanica) 54 Household Tasks (1) 58 Preparing the grain (dhanyasamkaradi) 58 Cleaning the house (grhasammarjanadikam) 59 Smearing with cow-dung (gomayenanulepanam); the goddess Sri 59 Worship of the threshold (dehalipuja) 63 Delegating housework 64 The care and worship of cows (gosevanam) 65 Ablutions, etc. 69 Urinating and defecating (mutrapurisotsargah) 69 Cleansing rituals (saucam) 71 The sipping ritual (acamanam) 75 Cleaning the teeth (dantadhavanam) 78 The ritual bath (snanam) 82 Getting dressed (vastradharanam) 88 Wearing the tilaka mark (tilakadharanam) 96 IIB AT DAWN (Sdhp. 7v.9 - 10v.1) 102 Serving the Sacred Fire (agnisusrusa) 102 The role of the wife 107 Where the patni may walk 115 Which wife is the paini? 121 At which point should the wife participate? 129 How important is the presence of either husband or wife? 132 Is the patni the ritual agent of the sacrifice? 141 The Offering of Respect to the Sun (arghyadAnam) 149 IIC DAY (Sdhp. 1Ov.1 - 19v.4) 156 Saluting One's Elders (guruNam abhivAdanam) 156 Paying homage (padavandanam) to one's parents-in-law 161 Personal services 163 Household Tasks (2) (grhakrtyam) 168 General attitude 168 Managing the household accounts 168 Whether the wife may talk to other men (parapuruSha) 170 Midday Rituals 176 General comments 176 Image worship (devapcild) 178 The worship of all gods (vaisvadeva) 180 Paying homage to guests (atithipuja) 183 General rules 183 The necessity for the ritual; Naciketas and Yama 185 The penalties in store if the ritual is neglected 188 The rewards in store if the ritual is performed 193 Comparison with the fire ritual 196 The role of the wife 198 The distinction between 'guests' and casual visitors 205 At Meals (bhojanam) 210 The wife's duty to serve at meals (parivesanam) 210 A man should not eat in his wife's presence 214 How the wife should serve the meal 217 The wife's own meal 221 Her ritual offering (balidAnam) to the goddess Jyestha 227 Post-prandial duties (bhojananantarakrtyam) 229 IID EVENING (Sdhp. 19v. 4 - 21r.3) 234 Evening Rituals and Duties 234 Going to Bed (sayanam) 234 III THE INHERENT NATURE OF WOMEN (strisvabhavah; Sdhp. 21r. 3 - 22r. 8) 246 IV DUTIES COMMON TO ALL WOMEN (strinam strinam sdharana dharmah); [ Sdhp. 22r.8 - 48v.6] 273 General rulings on behaviour 273 Things to be avoided (varjaniyah) 274 Women's property (stridhanam) 276 In praise of the pativratA 280 General quotations 280 Draupadi and Satyabhama 280 Krsna and Subbadra 281 Uma and Mahesvara 281 Sandili and Sumana 282 The Religious Duties of the Menstruating Woman (rajasvaladharmah) 283 The polluting power of menstrual blood 283 Prohibitions relating to the menstruating woman and defects accruing to the child 284 Special rulings 285 The ritual bath of purification 286 The proper time to make love (rtukaladharma) 287 The Religious Duties of the Pregnant Woman (garbhinidharmah) 288 Rulings and prohibitions 288 The pregnant woman's cravings (dohada) 289 Entry into the lying-in chamber 290 The Religious Duties of the Woman Whose Husband is Away (prositabhartrkadharmah) 291 The injunction relating to dying with one's husband (sahagamanavidhih) 291 Quotations in favour of the practice 292 The objection that it is a form of suicide 292 The rewards it brings the good wife 293 Sahagamana as a prayascitta for the bad wife 295 Sahagamana in relation to brahmin women 297 The Religious Duties of the Widow (vidhavadharmah) 298 When sahagamana does not apply 298 The conduct of the widow 299 The question of niyoga 300 The impurity and inauspiciousness of widows 302 Whether or not the widow should shave her head 303 The three kinds of pativrata 304 V TRYAMBAKA'S CONCLUSION: OBEDIENT SERVICE TO ONE'S HUSBAND IS THE PRIMARY RELIGIOUS DUTY OF A WIFE (patrisusrusanam mukhyo dharmah; Sdhp. 48v.6 - 88r.1) 305 She Should Serve Him Without Regard for Her Own Life (prananam avigananaya) 305 Sita and the demon 305 The brahmin's wife and the crane-demon 306 The pigeons and the bird-catcher 306 Accepting Even Her Husband's Sale of Her (bhartrkrtatmavikrayangi) [kara]: Hariscandra 307 Even if it Conflicts with Other Duties (itaradharmopamardena) 308 The ascetic Kausika and the brahmin woman 308 Further quotations 309 If her husband requires it, she should even do what is wrong 309 Pandu and Kunti 310 Sudarsana and Oghavati 310 'Service' versus 'Obedience'; Svaha and Arundhati 312 Savitri 313 Tryambaka's Summary 314 Concluding Verses and Colophon 316 3. CONCLUSION 318 APPENDIX 331 The text: Collation of manuscripts and Stemma codicum ABBREVIATIONS 339 BIBLIOGRAPHY 343 1. Texts and translations 2. Secondary literature INDEX 363 Plates : Between pages 178 and 179 1 Woman milking while cow with calf watching 2 Woman anointing herself with sandalwood paste or perfume from a pot 3 Woman holding mirror and applying collyrium to her eyes 4 Woman arranging ornaments in another's hair 5 Woman putting tilaka mark on her forehead while another holds a mirror 6 Woman squatting to cook, and fanning herself with her left hand 7 Woman standing to serve her husband while he sits and eats 8 Woman massaging her husband's feet as he relaxes on a bed after his meal 9 Woman dining alone, eating what is left of her husband's meal, after tending to his needs 10 Woman sitting on the ground, playing with male child 11 Woman sitting with child on her lap, suckling him 12 Couple making love on a low bed, naked except for their ornaments, the woman on top 13 Couple making love on a low bed, both wearing ornaments, woman drinking from a bottle